LinkedinI tried it…. I put the button on my blog. I got a lot of requests to connect… I accepted them I thought it was neat at first…


Then I had people start forwarding me requests for introductions and also getting introductions from other people. When I would ask my friends about the person they all said Ohh I dunno him I just forwarded the request… GREAT. Now these are not just random idiots that forwarded me the requests they are well respected industry friends.

I can see how it could be useful for someone trying to get a inside contact inside a company but seriously I have had ZERO value from it. I am sure I am probably rare though but whatever. I gave it a shot. Now everyone stop forwarding me introduction requests to Jason Calacanis. (I get like 5 a day for him alone).

Anyway I for now I made a mail rule to trash all linkedin crap until I can figure out how to remove myself.

By Jeremy Schoemaker

Jeremy "ShoeMoney" Schoemaker is the founder & CEO of ShoeMoney Media Group, and to date has sold 6 companies and done over 10 million in affiliate revenue. In 2013 Jeremy released his #1 International Best selling Autobiography titled "Nothing's Changed But My Change" - The ShoeMoney Story. You can read more about Jeremy on his wikipedia page here.

28 thoughts on “Linkedin – You Had Me – Then You Lost Me”
  1. This isn’t aimed at you, Shoe, just a general rant about the way people (mis)use LinkedIn

    Most people do not see a difference between LinkedIn and MySpace for adults.

    LinkedIn isn’t about having contacts or a large network; it’s about having *trusted* contacts you *personally* know, who you know you could depends on for an introduction to anyone else on the network.

    When you add people you don’t personally know, you aren’t making you network better; in effect, you are hindering it. Sure, you get your name out there, but most of the people who see it won’t care.

  2. It has been over 2 years since I logged in and I still get crappy Linkedn emails saying folks are trying to contact/link to me… etc. I kind of relate it to… something that you check out for 5 minutes but then annoys you for a lifetime… i’m just too lazy to figure out how to stop it…

  3. Were seeing so many of these services popping up that its hard to decide which one brings the most benefit to the user.

    With your experience and expertise along with huge user base have you ever thought about creating the Ultimate Service for bloggers?

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  5. I would differentiate two things here.
    It is one thing to be less picky about who you accept as connection or who you contact yourself and ask to link-up with.

    It is a complete different thing when it comes to making introductions and forwarding requests.

    if you forward or introduce somebody to somebody else, state what your relationship is with the other person. Knowing each other only from lets say an interesting debate or reading each others blog is not necessarily a bad thing.

    What you do with the connection and how you use it when should be unique in every case. If somebody forwards me a request or introduction without a comment and I don’t know the person that wants to contact me not at all, I will go to my direct contact and ask who that is and what their relationship is.

    This is not a new skill you have to acquire, but a basic skill you should be familiar with and “fluent in” since latest junior high school.

  6. Friendster and MySpace fostered an online popularity contest that’s bleeding into LinkedIn but it’s not appropriate for the LinkedIn network. This is the second post I’ve read this week about people not understanding the difference between a “friend” or a “business contact” and strangers who like to accumulate friends and connections on their profile. The MySpace mentality is a bad thing.

  7. I agree with the above. You told of the problem in your first sentence, “I got a lot of requests to connect… I accepted them.”

    It won’t work unless you personally know your contacts.

    Interesting post though.


  8. Try and be happy. More Europeans but a well-done social business network.

  9. I think this is user error. If you accepted friend requests from people you don’t know or don’t trust, then you set yourself up for this type of abuse. What is great about this service is you control who you are connected to.

    Surely you know that you have some notoriety (heck I am typing this while wearing my limited edition Black Shoemoney shirt…) and thus are more likely to have the system abused to meet you or connect to who you know.

    I have had really good success using the people I know to meet the people I need to do business with. I am often surprised by who people know and it has been a great tool.

    At first, I tried to build a huge network and soon realized that some people I only marginally knew and would never use as a reference were asking me for stuff. Once I started to be selective about my network, the utility grew for me.

    Kill the contacts who are spamming without regard to your time and I bet you see some value. Heck some of the people you remove from friends will wonder why and it will make them treat the system better going forward.

  10. Linkedin is very iseful if it’s used the way it should be. I never link to people I don’t know personally. I once introduced two people in my network, one was hiring and the other one was the right person for the job.

  11. Your MySpace approach does not work well with Linkedin as other commenters have already pointed out. Only build your network with people you know and you will be fine. In your position it is almost natural that will try to abuse your power/position to get in touch with people they would never be able to meet at all.


  12. As others have said – the problem is you have untrusted connections. If the _only_ people you connected to were part of your well trusted network, and your good friend John forwarded a request that said his good friend Mary wanted to work on a business deal with your good friend Jim, wouldn’t you want to help make that happen?

    So – LinkedIn allows you to remove connections. Go to your connections screen and find it – select it, then check every connection that represents someone you don’t personally know, and remove that connection.

    You will stop getting requests from people you don’t know wanting you to forward their request to other people you don’t know – or heaven forbid people you do know!-)

    That will “fix” your problem – and in the future, only connect to people you know well.

  13. I’d agree with the comment above. It’s great for building a list of trusted contacts, but not so great when used as a myspace clone. hell, we already have enough myspace clones.


  14. I don’t think this is really a problem with LinkedIn. I don’t mean to sound rude, but I think you set yourself up for it by becoming a high-profile person on the web, and by asking people to connect to you on LinkedIn publically.

    It sounds like you were using LinkedIn like you were using MyBlogLog.

    When you’re building a house, do you use a hammer to cut a two-by-four? No, you use a saw.

    Different tools do different jobs.

    I’ve been using LinkedIn a bit. This week, for example, I was able to make contact with CEOs of two companies (Sedo and Chitika), through LinkedIn.

    When you use it for what it’s meant to do, it can be a good shortcut. I’m sure I could have made contact with those two through other means, like a phone call for example. But, LinkedIn was a short-cut. It saved me time.

    That’s, in my opinion, what LinkedIn is for, not to see who can build the biggest network.

    The people who were sending frivilous contacts to you, or through you, maybe should be dropped off your contacts list.

    It’s not the tool that’s at fault. It’s the people using (or misusing) it.

  15. Hey this started an string, yes I agree with you you have to be careful. I found it handy to get back in touch with old work colleagues.

  16. […] * Shoe ranting (again) about LinkedIn.. He rants a lot, but nonetheless I agree with him on this post. LinkedIn is a good concept, but it isn’t bringing me any value either. I may dump it as well. […]

  17. Hey shoe, why are your comments littered with spam like:
    […] some idiots spam about your post […]

    Can’t you filter that out of your comments? I know its supposed to be a trackback, whatever that really means, but it looks like spam.

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    Digg removing top users list….his own DEMO going on called ScobleShow, if you have..his own DEMO going on called ScobleShow…i have started the valuShow….The whole point is to ignite the creative spark and expose the “idea people” to “get it do…

  19. LinkedIn, and all these other ‘professional contact’ networks, have most value when used to keep track of who *you* know.
    If you let it be used by other people to ‘track’ you, its value to you is reduced.

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  21. “trusted”? Please elaborate. “Would steal horses with” trusted? or “Probably not rip you off” trusted?

    “personally know”? As in meet in person? We are Internet marketers. People have perfectly fine business relationships without ever having meet in person. I remember a scene from Affiliate Summit where an Employer (OPM) was meeting some of its employees for the first time in person.

    A linked in connection does not (and should not) automatically imply that I endorse somebodies business or businesses (who is not doing multiple things nowadays). I you want to do that, use the “endorse” feature. That is separate and not build in automatically in the “connect” module.

    I already stated in an earlier comment that was voted down what I think about the whole thing. Nothing changed that opinion yet.

  22. […] You had me then you lost me (better for the comments than the rant itself) […]

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