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Why we are not friends on Facebook (dont take it personal)

by Jeremy Schoemaker on April 17, 2012 · 19 comments

So like I have been meaning to post this for a bit but I feel it kind of comes off as egotistical.

Here is the deal. I get a lot of friend requests. I don’t check them. In fact I think today was the first time I friended someone in 4 months.

I have a our interns routinely go in and delete all friend requests cause when I use my iPhone it locks it up getting all that info.

Here is what it looks like so far THIS WEEK:

Some people take this personally and get really pissed and some people just constantly spam my wall saying they have requested.

Why don’t I friend anyone?

  1. I dont have time
  2. I don’t want to devote any company resources including myself to this.
  3. There is NO GOOD REASON you need to be “friends with me”.

So that last one might need further clarification.


You can message me,  you can subscribe to my feed and see my updates.  You can comment, you can like you can poke you can invite me to your new stupid application you just installed.

There is not one added feature to us being friends.

If I am missing something lemme know below



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1 Jon

The amount of friends is a penis enlarger, that’s why.

2 That Sneaker Wearing Entrepreneurial Cartoonist Internet Guy

Well said.

3 netmeg

But but but Jeremy, how else can I send you endless requests to play stupid games on Facebook ?!?

4 Dave

They just want to be friends with you Jewemy (said with a huge lisp).

5 Jamie Northrup

I was hoping to tell all my friends that you were my friend, if I comment on one of your posts in Caps Lock, and then you tell me to turn it off and I do, will you consider me too?? lol

6 Ramon

One of those guys has 181 mutual friends… Might mean something

7 jean w.

facebook sucks and i wouldent use it anyway.

8 Brian

Totally understand your point. But your name is your brand. So someone being friends with you. Every time you post something it will go on their wall.

Same happens when people like your facebook fan page.

I understand your wall gets cluttered as well with updates. But if you just remove them from your wall I believe the friend will never realize.

I might be missing something. But adding someone does not take a long time. Just as much time as it takes to delete. Maybe it is the private messages that would screw you then.

Just rambling. Take care!

9 Nick Throlson

You will always have haters on facebook glad I’m your friend on there I usually accept friend requests with mutual friends but I find the foriegn ones to be bit naggie & wanting to get advice or free tweet etc

10 Richard M

You forget to mention there is no money in it..LOL

11 fas

The more the friends on facebook, the more happening you are considered!

12 Dr who

shoe has posted yet another usless post that most 5 yr olds could have wrote better. This blog just keeps getting worse each time shoe posts something, “I have lots of friends on facebook” whats next: “why I don’t talk to homeless persons?”. This shit won’t float much longer with captain shoestone. I suggest abandoning this marketing ship before captain bigshoe steer us all into the bermuda triangle.

13 Sha

Kind of funny that you’re knocking his post, yet, your reply is filled with grammar errors.

14 dr who

I guess my post was not approved, the thing was that I forgot to add that: I was joking and that I love your site and the fact that you share your thoughts. I pressed submit too early Lol I’m so clumsy sorry.

15 Darren Z

Yes, there is money in it. Each Facebook friend is classed as a subscriber, and someone you can market new products to. Not just on your wall/feed, but theirs too.

Seems to me, Jeremy that you are missing a trick here! Not like you…

16 charley

I don’t tink he iss missingg anything, its enough he is a marketer and doesn’t need to market to his peep on facebook

17 Julian

Lmao, Kenny was so happy to get that request approved…

18 Chris

Facebook’s a fad. It will all be over in less than a year.

19 John caskoby

Chris you domt know where you are talking about

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