I Am A Recovering Addict of MMORPG Games
Probably a lot of people saw this title and thought it was title bait. It’s not. This article is completely about my addiction with MMORPGS. When I posted the other day about my addiction to MMORPGS I bet most people had no idea the depth of it. Anyway here it is:
I was working at a startup ISP in Moline Illinios. I worked with a bunch of people who were all big gamers. We really had nothing else going on in our lives… We worked the late shift answering support calls. I worked the 3pm until 11pm shift. Most others worked the 12pm to 8pm shift but they all stayed ATLEAST until 11pm playing video games. I have always been naturally good at video games… sports games… whatever. When I was 8 years old I won a tournament in Branson Mo. where I had to play over 14 hours. I beat out over 300 other people of all age ranges. At one time I proclaimed myself the greatest in the world at nhl96 hockey and challenged people to games. I also would play them with no goalie. I was the best. But I digress.
One day while working at Internet Revealed a co worker, Anthony Patrezi was all excited about this new video game coming out from Verant interactive called “Everquest”. He was really excited. I was never really into Dungeons and Dragons although many of my co-workers were. I did not really understand what it was about… He left early that night so he could pre-pay for a copy of the game. When he came in the next day with Everquest he started playing right away…. You see Everquest was a game where you built your own character. You could be a human… or a elf… barbarian or go evil and be a ogre, troll or dark elf. Then you could build the character… give it a certain color of eyes… hair… how tall was it… how fat… etc.. Totally customizable. Then once your character was built you entered the world of Norrath.
I thought the game was simply awesome. I went out and bought it immediately. I made a character…. Choose human… wizard. I named my character Wizinator. (seemed like a good name). I ran out into this virtual world with tons of other people online and started nuking rats with lightning bolts I conjured from the sky. The graphics were AMAZING. I remember the first time I ventured out past the commonlands into the west commonlands and saw a Griffin…. It was this massive flying thing with the head of a lion. In the game everyone was terrified by griffins and griffons. If someone shouted GRIFF you ran like a MOFO to the closest zone. The game was simply magical. After a few weeks of playing more people that we worked with got the game and were just getting ready to start. I realized my choice of race (human) and class (wizard) were pretty dumb and I was going to be in this game for the long haul. So I started over on the same level as these other guys.
We all started our characters out on this new server…. This time I chose a druid as my class and a half elf as my race. This also means I started in a new area…. Called Quenos. With a fresh start I started whaling on stuff, gaining in levels fast with my fellow co workers. We had a really good system at internet revealed. We were able to play Everquest while we worked. After work I would book home as fast as possible to play until 7-8 AM until I passed out. I had no time to cook food or have any sort of human interaction with the world outside Everquest. I ordered pizzas every night and drank water like a fish. I also had TONS of cartons of cigarettes in the house. When I played at home I smoked like a chimney. Sometimes smoking 2+ packs of cigarettes in the 10 hour+ sessions we played. On the weekends it was time to really get in some play time. I am such a completely obsessive person that I never could quit playing. On weekends I would not sleep on Saturday nights…. Hardly ever. I had to be the best…. I had to level up.
Basically how leveling up worked was you got experience from killing mobs (monsters) and when you got enough of that experience you raised a level. If you died you would lose experience. Sometimes as much as half of a level. The experience loss from death was devastating. Sometimes 1 death would cost you as much as 8 hours worth of grinding on mobs experience wise. I remember one of my co-workers in particular who was on a customer support call when he died and ended up shouting at the person on the phone just like “YOU’RE A FU*KING IDIOT I DUNNO HOW TO FIX YOUR PRINTER”… like whoa dude… Some people told him c’mon its just a game and your going to lose your job.
But the thing was it wasn’t a game… It had become our lives. We were spending 16+ hours a day living inside this virtual world. We also had jobs inside this world…. I was a leatherworker… another one of my RL (real life) co workers was a blacksmith… another one was a jeweler. As I reached level 20’ish it was being revealed that by killing some mobs you could get special random stuff… like a badass sword or armor… or whatever. So now we would setup camps where these special items dropped. The random drops were pretty nuts… like sometimes 1 in 30. So you just had to grind it out. Being it was so random though it sucked. Also there became huge jealousy when people would get their items. There started to become a market outside the game for these items….. You would see them being sold on EBAY! So now not only were they sought after in the game but now people were getting them just so they could make money on eBay… and make money they did. Also now if you were in a group of 5 people all of different classes and as a item dropped that was druid only people who could not even use it would be like dude I can sell that I am going to roll on it (rolling meant rolling a virtual magic die. In the game its how disputes were settled).
Lots of stress… Things became very political in the game. Eventually they implemented a Guild system where you could band together. This was awesome because now people in the guild would help eachother.
Well long story long now ending shortly is I became lvl 50 pretty fast on the server. In fact I was the 5th over all and the first half elf. I was awesome. I had the sword that sparkled and all my cool gear from the plane of fear. I would roll up into town and newbs everywhere would just be in awe.
I ruled the world….. or this virtual one anyway….
Meanwhile my real life had fallen apart. I had lost my job and was in debt with creditors calling ringing my phone off the wall not even to mention I was fat as could be weighing over 400lbs. I could not deal with my real life. I hated any time that took away from my Everquest time. I was ruler in that world.
Then one day my power was shut off…. Omg…. I was so depressed. Not only was my online world now shutoff but now I had to confront my life that I had neglected for the last 2 years. It looked pretty hopeless so I decided to move out of my apartment that was driving me more into debt and possibly go live with my parents.
My parents came over to help me move all my items into a storage closet and offered to let me live with them. I love my parents but I was like 25 years old was not about to move in with them. My friend George Schaeffer III suggested I come live with him in Des Moines Iowa and try to find work there since it was a much more thriving area. I made the move and what a amazing move it was… I wont go into all the details but soon after I met my girlfriend (now wife) and 3 years later we are living together in Omaha Nebraska. It had been a long time since I played a MMORPG like Everquest and I had just started my own business and doing pretty well. I had been dreaming about Everquest though for the last couple years… killing snakes in Blackburrow… camping the ogre for the bone bladed claymore… hunting that asshole that dropped the great Zweilander in the barbarian land… (you guys who played EQ know what im talking about). It was amazing that I was still having dreams about this game YEARS after I had played it.
We were about to go on a trip so I downloaded this mini Everquest game to my PDA. What harm could it do? I mean it was a PDA game…. I took it on a trip to Vegas with my wife and played it with all my free time. I would wake up in the middle of the night and go in the bathroom and play it… I had the bug back. I started talking to my wife about it saying I was feeling like I wanted to play. She was pretty ignorant about how the massive online world games worked and kind of encouraged me to look into it.
About that time a new game was about to come out called “World of Warcraft” and I was intrigued. I also liked how there was virtually no death penalty. I purchased the game and started playing. I was doing really well on the internet making several thousand dollars a day completely passively… So why not take a little time for myself? I mean seriously I deserved it right? So I started playing during the day while my wife was at work…. It was kind of the same deal as Everquest… you make your character.. pick your race and other stuff then get going. Course this was many years later and they had done a lot better in the graphics although it did not have nearly the amazing earth shattering effect as Everquest did when I first started playing it. Anyway I played this about 8 hours a day while my wife was at work then when she went to bed I would play more. I was able to level fine but I could not camp for the cool items… so I did what any other wealthy person who didn’t have the time to play did… I bought them on Ebay… In the next few weeks I spent thousands on eBay. I bought enough gold to buy my level 60 horse… a sword that shot flames… it was awesome. My wife never knew and I do not think still knows the depth of my addiction.
Then about 3 months after I started playing World of Warcraft it was Christmas… I was traveling back to my hometown. I was almost pissed off that I was not going to be able to play Warcraft..
My sister was married to a guy who had 2 kids from a previous marriage but this guy also had a addiction to online multiplayer games. He came over to my parents and would sit in another room and play his game the whole time. He completely ignored his kids. It was …. So sad.
I believe at that time I had what alcoholics refer to as a “moment of clarity”. I envisioned myself neglecting my family and kids. It was very very very awakening. I confessed to my wife that night that I had an addiction to playing online games. I think she understood but kind of downplayed it. Like I said I still to this day do not think she understands the depth of my addiction. Anyway I can never play a game like that again. I now have 2 daughters and a very happy marriage and I live for my kids and wife. I have never played a massive multiplayer game like that since.
I do from time to time play games like desktop tower defense or something on the xbox 360 but nothing that encases me like that. I also have made people around me very aware of my addiction. Especially people like Dillsmack who can spot it a mile away cause he would know if I got wrapped up in a online game.
Anyway all this sounds pretty crazy right? Well I dunno that I am that odd… I am reading about people getting trapped in these worlds all the time in the mainstream media… whether its 2nd life…. Everquest… World of Warcraft…. Whatever. People have even committed suicide over it.
So I still dream about Everquest…. Kiting hill giants and frost giants with my druid…. Powerleveling my twink rogue. The scariest thing is I am on a plane right now writing this post and remember all the above things with such clarity….
Addiction is a motherfsckr. I know this addiction is pretty pathetic compared to some peoples….. But its there and I know its something I always need to be conscious of.
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Hehe, another recovering MMORPG-addict here. I used to play WoW. I played it for around three years. Oh, all that wasted money. Haven’t played now for a year.
I stopped when I realized how the game was just same all the time.. I hope that I am able to not buy the new expansion..
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I see your point Jeremy… I never have played MMORPG but 89% of my friends do… here in philippines, WOW isn’t very popular.. instead other smaller mmorpg games seem to capture people… I have played guildwars before and stopped when i realized it has been eating my time.. well everytime i ask my friends why do they waste their time there they always say, you don’t understand it, its easy to say for you bcoz youre not playing…
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That was quite a story Jeremy. I never knew the depth of you’re addiction.. I know many of my friends who played MMORPG who got so addicted that they had virtually no life whatsoever… then screwed up their exams and stuff like that and basically failed school. They sort of had this “ritual” where every saturday they will go to a computer cafe and basically play WOW. It is pretty sad…
I do know Joel Comm plays WOW and he’s a huge gamer. Not sure if you’ve played him.
Stanley
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also to add after playing games for a whole day that seemed to be just a while, it leaves a very stressing feeling…. the eyes are oftentimes teary, the face is tired up and stressed and sometimes you have to catch your breath… just heard from my friends/ expereicnce
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Glad to hear you got that shit under control. Now, how do I control my Internet addiction?
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When I was still in school, the number of college kids that dropped out after a semester because all they did was play WoW amazed me. These guys would sleep all until the afternoon, wake up and play until the early morning hours. Not only would they skip class they would not socialize outside of that game at all. It was sad.
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I’ve never let myself play MMORPGs for this exact reason, I know I’d get addicted. A friend of mine gave me his 2 week trial for WoW, and that was all I did for those two weeks.
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I can still remember the day when I threw up after playing for 16 hours of StarCraft..
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Craig, MMORPG’s aren’t shit, im was an wow addict till i had 3 level 70’s with full tier 5/6
I played myself to death because it WAS good AND fun. and i might even do it again with the next bigtime mmo
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about 5 years ago, when i found first mmorpg game, i’ve played it for 18 hours without stop
Currently i’m playing travian for about 2 years. i have an open tab from my browser every time i’m online :))
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Totally understand you. My friend’s brother is totally obsessed with WOW. He’s spent the entire summer locked inside the computer room. He’s pale white, and if you try to talk to him he goes nuts. It’s pretty sad. I’m hoping that soon he’ll wake up from this trance.
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Dont she read your blog ?
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MMORPGs can really ruin your real life. In Korea you can see a lot of unemployed people MMORPG games straight for DAYS! It’s pretty sad… I used to be a big fan of MMORPG games too. None that are well known in the States, but very popular in Korea. However, the addiction was just too great, so I decided to format my PC to get rid of it once and for all.
By the way Shoe, I think your new addiction of blogging and Shoemoney isn’t so bad. At least it earns you the money to pay the bills!
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I’m quite lucky as I’ve never been into MMORPGs, though I was quite addicted to my Xbox awhile back and played hours upon hours of Call of Duty 4. I think I have over 16 days of gametime clocked since January, so a little over 2 full days a month, I spend on gaming. Which is just sad.
I’ve since seen that this is a problem as my school work and regular work started to suffer. I have set strict limitations on myself, I don’t allow myself to play for more than an hour at a time without a break. Usually after I shut the console off and get up or go out, I don’t feel like playing again for that day. In the past week I’ve played for about 35 minutes total, and the week before that was about 2 hours.
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Amen Brother!
I feel your pain.
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Thanks for sharing your story.
I’m sure some parents will read your story and lock up their Wii’s and limit the time their kids can go online but before you do, please read what I have to say.
As a mother to three kids who enjoy games (as do my husband & I), I would like to share my thoughts if I can. My children are unschoolers, meaning they’re homeschoolers who don’t follow a curriculum. We learn through everything, including games. I model “balance” in my own life and discuss it with my children often. They don’t have restrictions placed on them and yet they choose to play games in moderation. Take right now for instance….we have a PS1, PS2 and 2 DS’s that they can play whenever they want yet my son (16) is working on a model car, my daughter (13) is shooting some hoops and my other daughter (9) is outside reading. So what’s my point? If parents gave their children more freedom, less restrictions, respected their passions and modeled the behavior they wanted to see, (and at the same time be a part of their kids lives) I think that as we grow up, we would have an easier time balancing things like gaming. I see it all the time with college kids. They get their first taste of freedom and don’t know how to handle it. Thanks for letting me speak out and again, thank you for sharing your story.
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Diablo 3 is coming soon, probably end of next year…
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Shoe-
Totally know about the EQ bug, was there with you playing on TZ, which in the early days was the best, because you could kill the other characters and grab their stuff if they didnt unequip fast enough.
Played WOW and some of the other MMORPGs but nothing has ever grabbed me like old school EQ. I miss the days of youth with no responsibility sometimes lol
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My Iksar Shamon never got to its highest levels, but I would seriously neglect so much time to Everquest. I got into it not long after I got married 5 years ago, and would play it while my wife was in school. I didn’t have a good connection at work, so instead of playing I would spend a lot of time reading up on the latest crap or how to level or the latest mobs to get. I’d setup ShowEQ to find everyone and everything (and it really sucked when it would break). Basically I had a huge addiction that could have cost me my marriage, but I too had a sort of clarity moment. WTF was I going to do with myself if all I did was play this?! In fact, I’m sure this was some part to my best man getting divorced. Not the entire reason I’m sure, but part of it. Fk MMORPGs.
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Wow, Shoemoney. I’m a long time lurker, but I had to come comment on this post. I’ve been writing about the effects of video game addiction on marriage for a while now, and this is a perfect example of what it does to people. I am glad that you were able to put aside the addiction, as a lot of men are not able to put it down. Good for you!
Unfortunately, the problem with MMORPG’s and consoles like the Xbox has grown to epic proportions with clinics opening to help with , as well as a multitude of websites with resources about game addiction.
Good post. Thanks for sharing and helping people become aware of the problem!
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I almost have tears in my eyes, I confessed about my addiction in mmorpg, nobody seems to take it seriously, I stopped playing 1 year ago when I started my first big website.
I understand you 100% on this one, and yet I’m so scared to run World of warcraft again, what if I get addicted again? And there’s moments when you get bored, and think about it.
I’ve managed to succeed so far.
Thank shoe, inspiring post
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I think your spam filter ate my comment. It was my first comment here, makes me sad.
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Yeah man that shit is real. In college I wrote a paper titled “Internet Addiction Disorder” for a psych class.I did a ton of research on the topic and addiction to online gaming seemed to be the strongest kind of internet addiction. Now I am a bit worried because my 12 yr old wants to play Runescape (smiilar to EQ) all the time. Sometimes he gets up at like 6 am to play.
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I don’t have the patience for MMORPG - too slow and dense;
I’m an FPS, and 3rd person adventure guy.
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Thanks for posting this Shoe. I think this will bring an awareness to an issue that many do not understand. Addictions, regardless of the type, can happen quickly often without the person realizing it has happened. An addition to anything is damaging to your life.
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Never got into mmorpgs, since I don’t see the point. The end goal, what is it? A never-ending game isn’t really my thing.
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Shoe,
I was in a similar situation. I played EverQuest when it first came out (I’m in Des Moines, Iowa as well!) and played for about 5 years. I was married the entire time and even got my wife addicted to playing, but once our first child was born (about 4.5 years in), we knew we had to quit. We both quit and we both felt much better (less stressed and got in better shape). About a year later I dived into EverQuest 2 “casually”, but about 3-4 months later casual turned back to obsession. I was the third richest person on my server and had the Carpentry market cornered. I recognized the signs, so this time to quit early and haven’t looked back since.
Thanks for sharing your story Shoe. I’m glad to see I wasn’t the only one sucked into EverQuest.
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Jeremy, thanks for sharing. What you said in the last paragraph is true for all addictions– your propensity toward that addiction will never go away, but as long you remain conscious of it you can keep yourself steady.
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Thanks for sharing this, I was really into MUDs back in high school and would play it all the time. It’s difficult to come to grips with things like that and it’s amazing that you were able to recognize it now, rather than in 40 years.
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I have definitely been an MMORPG addict for runescape. I had played classic since it began and had lost school days and sleep just thinking about it. Sometimes I would go to bed, then come right back to the computer to gain 2 more levels or to fix a mistake i made before I logged off lol. I quit and downloaded a WOW free trail two years later. deleted it from my computer after 5 minutes.
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Thank you for sharing your story, Jeremy……it takes a brave man to stand up and admit to issues like this, but to go into analyzing the ins and outs takes a real man….hats off to you brother, for being a far braver man than I could ever be. Your example is an inspiration for me to get to grips with with my own shite and to deal with it….
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I enjoyed reading your story. I had a very similar experience as you I used to play a game called Diablo 2 every second I could, I played for about 4 years and not to brag because it sounds lame but I am probably the most known person on the game. If you go on Diablo 2 and ask anyone who “Enzo” is 75% of people will know. I ran a online store selling items, I had all the best items in the game even some that only 1 existed in the entire game, I had mass godly items duped with my name inscribed on them…anyways I haven’t played any games in over 2 years now and have no desire to. Business is my new addiction.
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It’s not , when your comments contains links most time they go to manual filtering .
and now we can see it
, it’s few comments above
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Warhammer Online is about to be released. I’m gonna give it a try and see. I got into DAOC, but I can’t say I’m addicted. So maybe I’ll be unemployed in the future and weighing 400 lbs.
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for those who are still addicted and wanna put an end to this obsession, delete everything about the game, characters, software, accounts for forums about the game, everything. then take the money that you normally paid for the game (if its pay to play), and budget it towards something else every month, that way if you get the urge, you wont have the means.
find a new hobby that will be time consuming but constructive.
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Yes indeed, I can’t wait.
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Yay bro! I feel your pain but hey i run a tech website so maybe its my job to be addicted lol
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I could never understand how people could get addicted to MMORPGs. The games are just so boring and repetitive. I would get bored after playing for 2 hours, because all you do is the same stuff over and over, there seems to be very little progression.
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I used to play a lot too.. Around 4-5 hours per day… F** time waster..
It was hard for me to get deaddicted.. My parents removed the internet connection for 4 months and then I left..
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I play Second life, an MMORPG, I’m not addicted,i play it about once a week, and ive made SOO much money from my virtual businesses.
I think MMORPG’s are ok in moderation.
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I became addicted to MMORPG about five years ago and still up to this date. Most people don’t understand why are we addicted to games like this. But I think once they played it, they will be one of us. HEHEHE!!! But I’m trying to control myself, and I find it hard.
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Wow , that was an amazing story, thanks for sharing that with us…
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Great reading…thanks for sharing
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Dude I have been reading your blog since way back, and it’s always been one of my favorites.
This is the best post I’ve ever read on it.
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Jeremy, that was a great post.
This is the first time I’ve ever commented and it is because what you posted about is a very true thing and even happened to me. My friends and I played Ultima Online (UO) since Beta and we were addicted, no doubt about it, for several years. Only after Origin (the company producing the game) and eventually having contact with Richard Garriot (the gaming legend that created the Ultima series) we eventually were given the power to do almost anything we wanted in the game…spawning gold out of thin air, creating creatures and quests. We were all either hired as Gamemasters (GMs) or Seers (lesser GMs that create events from home with GM tools).
After that, so many years into it, we all realized that we were addicted to nothing…all these players were working so hard to attain this or obtain that, once you can just “create” it…you discover it is all pretty much a waste of time (except for the communicating with friends online). We all made a pact to not purchase Everquest and, also, not to purchase WoW when it was released. All of our lives are very, very different now. I can attest to the many POSITIVE things we learned about life by being addicted to an online game. I am willing to bet it even helped us be successful in the real world, to a certain extent.
Try to think about the good things you got out of being addicted to an online game. For example, you will NEVER neglect your children — not for a video game and not for anything else. You know the depths of an addiction (video games or otherwise) and how it can take over your life and cause you to neglect those you care about. My story and that of my friends is about 99% the same as yours, except we didn’t play EQ, just UO. Selling items on ebay, everything.
Thank you for the post, it reminds me of the importance of quitting online games and made me feel happy about the fact many of us have moved on to something so much better.
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It kind of shows how easy it was to make money online back in the day.
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Thank god they didn’t have multi player games back in my youth!
At numero uno pizza in Reseda California we used to play Mr. Do, for like 8 hours straight until 4 in the morning (5 hours after they closed), slamming down dozens of glasses of coke (hard core eh?), and driving home almost sleeping at the wheel.
But at least there were occasionally hot chicks that walked by!
By the way around 1990, I got the first release of Larry the Lounge Lizard, a most excellent pixalated game :), and played for around 24 hours straight until I got to the end.
I’m still waiting for the fully realistic 3D can’t tell its not real, wear a V.R. suit and googles game, and then Sign Me Up!
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I think the game wow made alot more people love mmorpg type games
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In reality addiction is the primary condition and the fix is just the venue, so they are all serious and problematic, I know a guy who lost his job, wife and house over video games because that is all he did. I’m glad you stopped.
YOU’RE A FU*KING IDIOT I DUNNO HOW TO FIX YOUR PRINTER! Although I know this is serious, picturing that scene was really hilarious.
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dam this is a long post to read.
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Hey Shoe-
I know recently you had a bunch of backlash over some Digital Points BS but for all those who attack you I wish they had half the guts you do in exposing your human side, not just making money. Addiction is brutal, for the person and their family, be it gaming, gambling, or any other activity.
As a non-addict I didn’t understand the mindset of an addict until I was forced deal with a gambling addiction by a family member. By speaking openly about addictions it helps everyone learn the signs and how to deal with a potential life destroying illness. Thanks again for having the guts to show your human side, even when it is not always self flattering. I’m sure your post will end up helping many start on the long road to recovery. Keep up the great work.
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Was in the same place about a year and a half ago. I know exactly what you mean. My addition was to WoW. I got into it a little late, but leveled from install to 60 in about 2 months and I was hooked once I got into raiding. By the expansion, I was playing 8 to 12 hours a day. I leveled from 60 to 70 in about a week, which placed me as one of the few level 70 Warlocks on my server ( think there were only 3 of us), which got me into the top guild on the server.
I had a 4 day a week raiding schedule, with 5 to 6 hours on each of those days. Then you’d be required to spend hours farming for mats. I easily play 50+ hours a week.
During this period, I went into a depression, gained 100 lbs, and dropped out of school. It was really sad. Eventually I got a grip and sold my T4 Warlock on Ebay for about $500. Haven’t touched MMO’s since. I play FPS console games, but I refuse to play any game I cannot simply pause and walk away.
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Everquest used to have a /pizza command that would allow you to order pizza from the game. I shit you not.
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i have a 12 year old son who are into supreme destiny online games. recently me and my wife had some issues regarding his much “addiction” into the game. What you have just narrated above was just the version of my son’s involvement in the cyber game only yours is 10 folds malignant.
Thanks for the fast forward overview of what might happen to my son merely years from now. I remember asking him of what he really wants if he grows old. I was shocked and dumbfounded in his answer. “i want to be the strongest player ever!” he said, at first i thought he meant sports player, but i feel so bad when he said he want to be strongest player in online games. His studies suffered already, house rules are broken and his relationship with his sister are all becoming sour. He can spend time playing alone never to go out and play with children his age, and worst he learns to find way to acquire money in order to play at the internet cafe behind our backs. not to mention his lack of proper understanding and differentiation between the world of “supreme destiny” and the real world he’s in. I’m not giving up on my son, right now he’s under the discipline I’m implementing.
He’s strictly on a school-home-school status, no extra money to be spent on internet cafe and focusing mainly on studies. Computer use at home is limited to school requirements only. I hope i can win this battle against this addiction to MMORPG of my son. Thanks for the futuristic overview of what might happen to my son.
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i agree/… i thnik everquest revolutionized how mmorpg should be played and in this case wow and some other followed its footsteps
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a testimony of how addicting mmorpg games(or other games) are….
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i dont think she does… and i dont thnk shoe has talked about mmmorpg a lot in this blog…
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Well done, Jeremy. I encourage you to write more from the heart, and further detail the journey you’ve undertaken (or are on) upon, especially with business efforts. It’s stuff like this that, in my opinion, garnered you so many loyal readers–you hit a chord. Excellent work!
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I’ve never been drawn that far in… but I could definitely feel the pull, and myself sliding down a slippery slope.
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had the chance to play first 2 versions. I’m sure I’m not gonna try the third when it comes out. I’m done with these things. There are better things to do with my free time.
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Yeah, I was addicted to counter strike and spend all my time in the game with the clan. If I haven’t moved to US and stayed with the clan, who knows where would I be now.
Then, after I moved, I realized how much time I wasted, limited my self to weekends and eventually stopped playing. I don’t think the addiction is to the game itself, but to the ranking that you need to live by and keep. Kind of makes you feel good and like you accomplished something. Since when I limit myself to weekends, I wasn’t addicted anymore and eventually stopped playing since I knew that I cna’t acomplish much in a short period of time that I had anyway.
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Did you start up again after you left or was the 4 months enough to get you to stop?
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You can also get dehydrated if you don’t drink enough liquid. I have also heard about the stress and loss of breath.
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I sometimes feel I’m getting addicted to the Internet too. I think I need to track my time and what I do. Hopefully it will focus my attention on how much time I am spending online and I will find out how much more I could actual be doing.
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This guy definitely needs help. Maybe you can point him to this post and comments so he can identify and see what will happen if he doesn’t make some changes.
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Wow, must have been pretty bad if you felt you needed to format the PC to get rid of it. I guess psychologically it makes sense to create a new beginning, but that’s a lot of work.
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Oh the temptation….. need to be strong….
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I now understand how you used to be fat. WOW
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Seems like it’s time to put some limits on the computer use. My son used to get up early and start playing. Once I found out about it I unplugged his network connection so he could only be online at certain times. I only needed to do that for a few months before the habit changed.
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Good advice Andrew. Sometimes the simplest solution is the best.
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I don’t think it’s a matter of time , it’s more how strong you are in term of Psychology .
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lol - it’s hard to relate, if you’re not a ‘gamer’
gamers can play for hours on end - and it’s like the equivalent of you just watching tv for 30 mins
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another bunch of addicted gamers
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I wish i was rich enough to play it 8 hours a day…
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Ah, thanks. Much appreciated!
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That’s so cool, I love video games too and I’am an Age Of Methology Master! I play all racing, strategy and action/spying/infltarion games
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Not nesseceraly damaging your life, sometimes addiction is a source of hapiness!
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MMMM … am I responsible … !!! … I still have the Atari Game Center and games that I bought in 1980. You spent hours and hours setting and beating your own records on most. I remember Missle Command was one of your favs. So, you were 5 (or 6 at most ) when you started with Atari and I think it might have been your first gaming exposure! Good memories!!!
MEGAHUGS, Aunt C
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Warcrack’s next expansion will re-open the flood gates of recovering MMORG-addicts pouring back in. Last one did, this one will, next one will. You “say” you are done now… There is no WOW patch to stick to your arm to satiate the craving, only dead elves and dwarfs can.
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Damn, Jeremy. Very personal story. Takes guts to share this with the world, but helps hold you accountable to yourself and your loved ones when you do. You know your kids will never forgive you if they realized you had neglected them for a f*cking game–or a business, for that matter. Thanks for sharing and keeping it real.
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I’ve never been a gamer but can somewhat understand from playing online poker. Have burnt many late night hours playing anywhere from 6 to 8 tables at a time depending on if i was playing tourneys or cash games.
I can say that I have seen this first hand though. When I first finished school I started with a I.T.firm in Boulder, CO that worked mainly with law offices. Alot of the lawyers needed personal help at their homes and there was this one guy that spared no expense. He was all about technology and had me setup his home network ranging from server to systems to networking his psp console because there was this new game…Everquest. (Obviously this was a few years back.)
Anyways I was on the other side of the mountain snowboarding with some buddies and he left a voice mail to say he couldn’t connect and it was crucial that I help as soon as possible. Thinking he’s getting some guy off death row working from home, I called him back (only a couple hours later) to find him in Everquest panic mode. As soon as I even mentioned that I wouldn’t be back until late the next evening he offered to pay twice my normal rate as an emergency call and for my entire trip as well. (which was nothing but gas b/c my buddy lived in Vail and I had a pass but anyways…). It took me about an hour and a half to get back across and I spoke with him damn near the whole way because he kept calling.
When I got to his house, man it was rough. He opened the door in his robe and boxers, sporting at least a three day beard and an aroma of no bath. We went to the game room and there were delivery boxes everywhere. He serious looked as if he had been on a bad binge and was chasing a dragon if you know what I mean.
All in all, he paid me $400 for my trip and $200 for my time for get this, 5 mins of work. All because when he signed up for his high speed he didn’t get a static ip and basically the isp had made a change and when his box reconnected it got a different ip then the psp setup.
I don’t know the lingo or the ways of the game but apparently it’s like Shoe said if you die you waste some time and from what he was saying he’d been playing for a couple of DAYS and he was on a major quest. The real kicker is apparently and I may be completely wrong but what I’ve heard if you lose connectivity you don’t die but basically just have to start back at the beginning of the quest at hand?!?!
I felt bad but he had no problem cutting me a check so I took it, jumped back in my truck, was back at my buddies within the next few hours buying a few rounds for my friends. When I told my friends the story one of them asking a question about the game, called it EVER-CRACK and from then on it stuck. I was doing some work on another project for that same guy and made the comment about EVER-CRACK and like a moth to a flame he broke out with a stammer and a look in his eye that made it very clear that that shit can’t be healthy and definitely isn’t for those that have addictive personalities.
sorry for the lengthiness!
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Wondering if it made you feel any better to write about this. The times you write about personal experiences bond you with your readers. I knew I would get addicted if I ever tried, so stayed away. I even got hooked on some stupid games I had on my palm about 6 years ago.
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I have heard some pretty crazy stories about people getting so addicted to these games they actually want to quit, and describe it as like trying to quit smoking cigarettes.
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Man,
Theres allot of good lessons to be learned in this post. I wonder what our kids will be like when they grow up with all the IMing and mmorpg’s etc.
I’m old enough to remember playing freeze tag and baseball all summer until the street lights came on. (thats how we knew it was time to go home)
Do kids still ride bikes down to the lake to swim?
My daughter wore the numbers off her cell phone from texting.
I’m just as guilty. I just got Metal gear solid for my ps3 and the online game is sic!
My son is playing now and its my turn.
God save us all
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I’m not sure I understand how addiction can be a source of happiness. Could you provide more information?
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I used to play games all the time but thank God I got rid of the addiction. I know people in 40’s and 50’s who spend most of the day playing games. That’s crazy!
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I too wasted far too much time on world of warcraft, and you do remember back on it fondly. However once you finally leave the game, the realization of how much time you spent in the game - rushing home after work, not sleeping properly, not prioritizing your life right - you know you can’t go back…
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I managed to avoid Everquest. Though I had some friends, about 6 of them, who would do nothing but play. Dropped out of school and everything. My addiction was quake 3. Fortunately there is a break after each match. It doesn’t have quite the same potential to take over your life. But I totally understand what you described.
Thanks for the story.
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The only games I ever got addicted to was the Grand Theft Auto games on Playstation 2! Very good games in my opinion but now I cant get into anything else as its just not the same anymore
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yes, i stopped it completely… 4 months is enough man..
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That’s a very nice post. Enjoyed.
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Well its almost synonymous w/a drug rehab…
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hahah… gaming addiction has its timings for me.
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I used to have a huge addiction, but I also had the time to myself to play - I only stopped when the headache from playing for hours and hours set in.
This was all before the wife came along, sort of changes how you view free time.
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=(
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Well, i use to be one of the beta programmers for one of the MMORPG games in Korea, that got me addicted for awhile honestly.
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World of Warcraft has a huge online audience, and rightfully so. The countless hours spent playing it by so many must add up to quite a figure. Anybody got insight into the relevant statistics? It will make compelling reading!
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Agreed! Once you start playing your perspective changes dramatically. It is easy for non-players to not get it, until they start playing themselves!
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I am an unashamed internet addict myself! When I can’t get online for any reason whatsoever I start feeling anxiety. No jokes! I don’t own a television, but don’t get between me and my computer!
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This is the right time to start a game de-adiction information site.
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This is a very common occurence. My WoW playing friends all follow this kind of pattern too. For this reason I’ve never gotten into the game myslef, as I got too many other responsibilities to attend to.
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Starcraft, now we’re talking! I can not wait for Starcraft II to be released! I wonser if there is going to be a Wo